This is my Pride Book List for Kids from 2017 for this year’s list of 90 LGBTQ+ positive books for children check out The 2021 Ultimate Pride Book List here.
Every year that I sit down to write this list of LGBTQ children’s books, I think about the comments from the years prior. A common one is “This should be left to the parents.” This is a point I thoughtfully and calmly debated with my preschool director. The thing is a lot of topics that parents aren’t sure how to handle or that they are against, like gay marriage, are not best left to them if our goal is to teach children about the world around them. I want to raise and teach children who are inclusive and empathetic. Excluding whole populations of families and people is not the way to do that. We can not tell our children everyone is worth the same, everyone deserves respect, and then make these books “a sensitive subject” to be discussed (or not) at home because some think they are inappropriate for school. That teaches our children that these topics are shameful, that these books are taboo, and in turn that the families and people portrayed in them are. That gets us nowhere. Two dad and two mom families are a fact, transgender children and adults are real, and all LGBTQ individuals and their families deserve to be represented, celebrated, and included in all parts of life, including school and home bookshelves.
This list is long and while some of these books would be perfect for a toddler or young preschooler, like Families by Todd Parr, others like Zak’s Safari or Home At Last would be better for slightly older kids. As with any book list, read multiple reviews and choose books that fit your audience.
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Worm Loves Worm by J.J. Austrian is a wonderful book about what really matters when two people or worms want to be married – love. Worm and Worm are deeply in love, and although they don’t fit into the conventional wedding customs, they still make it work. All their bug friends join in with wedding planning, and as they hit questions like who will be the bride or groom, they accept Worm and Worm’s decisions on how to do things their way. Cute book that helps to drive home the point that there is not only ONE way to love or have a wedding.
Morris Micklewhite and The Tangerine Dress By Christine Baldachinno has been a reader suggestion for as long as I’ve been publishing this list. I finally got my hands on it, and I can see why. Morris is just who he is and who Morris happens to be a boy who loves to dress up in an orange dress. The adults in the story don’t pass judgment. They support Morris for who he is without labeling or shaming. It takes some time for all the kids to be accepting. But soon their similarities and mutual interests overcame the differences, and everyone plays together. Not a bad lesson for the rest of us!
Uncle Bobby’s Wedding by Sarah S. Brannen is a sweet book about a little guinea pig Chloe and her issues with her uncle getting married. Now you might think that the issues are around the fact that he’s marrying another male guinea pig, but that’s not it at all. The issues are about how close Chloe is to Uncle Bobby and she is afraid that when he is married, that will change. This is a great book that normalizes same-sex weddings and focuses instead on the things that matter most to the children. Kids don’t care that their uncle is marrying a man, they just want to know how they are going to be affected.
ABC A Family Alphabet Book by Bobbie Combs is a great alphabet book that doesn’t aim to explain same-sex families, it just includes them. I love that it’s not out to explain because the families in this book are just families. This is a powerful way to normalize all different family structures. The book goes through all different things families do together, and there is a big mix of same-sex parents, single parents, and bi-racial families all doing their thing… being together!
A Peacock Among Pigeons by Tyler Curry is a humorous and touching look about standing out from the crowd when you aren’t necessarily trying to. Peter, the peacock, tries to blend in with the pigeons but he can’t no matter how hard he tries. The story is about how after he had left the pigeons he met colorful birds that accepted him and themselves for the ways they were unique and from that Peter started to love himself. Great story for every child!
10,000 Dresses by Marcus Ewert is a story about a little boy who doesn’t feel like a little boy and dreams of the most amazing dresses every night. He tries to tell his family about his dreams, but they brush them off reminding Bailey he is a boy and boys shouldn’t dream of dresses. His family is NOT accepting at all, and you must know that. For me, I saw this as an opportunity to talk about adversity. What I love about this book is that while the narrator refers to Bailey as she, all of Bailey’s family refers to Bailey as a boy. Only Laurel, an older girl who accepts Bailey as she views herself, calls her a girl. While my three-year-old is too young to get the various levels of this book, she understands that it’s OK for people to dress how they want and my 7-year-old is old enough to understand that gender is not always black and white. The book itself is amazingly creative and a great book about acceptance. Even if you don’t dive head first into a discussion about transgender issues with your kids, they will still like it.
Molly’s Family by Nancy Garden had both my kids captivated when I read it to them at lunch yesterday. The story is about Molly who is in kindergarten. After she draws a picture at school of her two moms, she is faced with a classmate telling her she can’t have two moms. There are many things I love about this book but most of all it is the adult reactions to this child saying it’s not possible that drew me in. Molly’s classmate that was sure two moms was simply impossible wasn’t told that he was wrong. Instead the teacher discussed how different every family was and how Molly’s was just as much a family has his or any other.
I loved even more how Molly became shy about displaying her drawing because it gave me a chance to talk to my 6-year-old about the power of words and not listening to others and how dismissing people can hurt. I also loved how the next day, the little boy who was so sure that two moms weren’t possible was cool with it. He just didn’t know it was a possibility, and I think that is a good reminder for why books like this matter.
George by Alex Gino is a lovely book. The author weaves a beautiful story about George, who is in the 4th grade and hiding something very big from everyone. He’s not a he on the inside at all; she is a she. This story about a transgender girl is especially touching because it’s from her perspective. No article or documentary has given me a deeper understanding of some of the feelings a young transgender person may feel like this book has. My daughter begged me to read it to her in kindergarten, and I thought she’d get bored, but instead, it remains one of her favorite books to this day. She loved it at 5, though the suggested age is middle elementary and up.
Red: A Crayon’s Story by Micheal Hall is one of my very favorite books. It made me cry the first two times I read it with my children because it’s so beautiful. All crayons come with a label, but is that label always right? Red came from the factory with a red outside, but even when he tried, and trust me he tried, all he could do was color blue. It’s not until he is asked by purple to draw him a blue ocean that he finally finds a place where he belongs. While this book doesn’t specifically speak about being transgender, if your child has any understanding of it, they will make the connection; I know mine both did. Also, the book is a wonderful introduction to the idea of what being transgender means.
King and King by Linda de Haan is a fairytale and a funny one at that. The queen is old and cranky and wants her son to take over the kingdom, but he must be married to do so. He tells her he’s not really into princesses, but Mama doesn’t take the hint. After finding fault with every princess presented to him, he falls in love at first sight with a prince, and they live happily ever after. I like the whimsical illustrations, and my kids thought the prince was funny. My son thought the book had a twist at the end with the princes falling in love, but just like the queen in the story, there was no debate over why.
I like that this book uses the familiar fairytale structure to make an important statement about the existence of same-sex marriage and can be a great icebreaker to talk about it with your kids.
I Am Jazz by Jessica Herthel is a book all about Jazz – a real-life little girl who is transgender. The book is a wonderful introduction to what being transgender means on a level children can relate to. In my experience, children accept Jazz and her story easily. There might be some giggles, but after the initial “Wow, I never knew that was possible.” they just see a kid being a kid. My now 7-year-old loves Jazz and will often choose this story as a bedtime selection.
Jacob’s New Dress by Sarah Hoffman is about Jacob, who likes to wear dresses. Unlike Bailey in 10,000 dresses, Jacob is accepted by the majority of his peers and family. His parents encourage him to be himself cautiously. I liked that throughout the story his parents softened their stance as Jacob became more confident about how he felt and how he’d handle teasing. Jacob was teased, but he was also accepted, which makes this book a great discussion starter with any child. Whether they have a child in their school who may dress in gender non-conforming ways or a family member who is transgender. Not all boys who wear dresses are going to identify as transgender or gay, and this book doesn’t say they will. Instead, it says to be yourself whoever that may be.
My Princess Boy by Cheryl Kilodavis has been talked about so much I think I had inflated expectations. Don”™t get me wrong. I think the message is so important, and the book does a good job at introducing readers to her son who doesn’t fit into a binary definition of gender. It explores how he gets hurt when people laugh at him and how great his family is at supporting him. I like how simply blunt the book is. And it should be because the lesson should be about acceptance and allow people, especially children, to express their true self even if it doesn’t fit the narrow definition we have given it. I think I was expecting more of a story even though I knew it was nonfiction. It opened a great dialog with my son when he was five about how he would treat a male friend if they wanted to dress in a dress. Good discussion at our house, worth the read for sure!
The Purim Superhero by Elisabeth Kushner is a wonderful story about being proud of who you are. The author uses the story of Queen Ester, along with the character’s two dads, as examples of finding strength in showing your true self. Those examples help Nate decide what he will be for the Purim costume parade. I won’t give away the story, but it’s awesome, original and perfectly true to who he is. I love that this book packs in so much diversity without any over the top preachiness. Kids love the story!
The Misadventures of the Family Fletcher by Dana Alison Levy is a wonderful early chapter book about a family with four adopted sons and two dads. What I love about this book is that in a subject matter that is so often shared more with girls, this book makes no bones about being aimed at boys. Girls will like it, too (my daughter certainly did), but elementary aged boys are its target. I know because my son gobbled it up. It’s not just about having two dads. It’s more about how no family is ever perfect, how making mistakes is part of growing up, and all the trouble four boys and one imaginary jaguar can get into.
My son was so excited to read the 2nd installment of the Family Fletcher, The Family Fletcher Takes Rock Island, and for a good reason. I think this book may be even better than the first, and we loved the first. My son connects with this family so well. That is such a statement about the power of books because the family in this book is comprised of two dads and four sons of all different races. Our family is as Leave it to Beaver as it gets, but that doesn’t matter. The power of diverse books is real! Grab these two books for your Kindergarten through 5th graders; they will love them! But be prepared for a lot of laughs, they are really funny!
Everywhere Babies by Susan Meyers and Marla Frazee. This book celebrates all sorts of babies and all the every day things babies do. As a toddler, my daughter pointed out all the babies on each page as I read the rhyming text. So maybe you are thinking “What’s so great about babies and text that rhymes”? The answer is nothing. That’s not what makes this book so awesome. I love this book because of its diversity, inclusion, and acceptance of all babies and families. The illustrations are full of depictions of all sorts of families showering their smallest, most precious member with love.
What I adore about the diversity of the illustrations is that readers are left to put whatever assumption we wish on the families in the book. What I assumed were two mommies, my husband thought was a husband and wife. I thought a lady was a grandma, and my son said it was just an older mom. This is why I love this book; my daughter doesn’t see why this message is outstanding. What she does see is all sorts of happy babies in all sorts of families being the norm. And this is the world we want her to know. In my classroom, over the past three years, this book was a favorite for children who were having separation anxiety. I would calmly sit down, get this big board book and we’d look at the babies. It was such a great tool to help the child transition from fear to be calm and ready to be cared for.
Donovan’s Big Day by Leslea Newman is a book about Donovan’s day, leading up to being the ring bearer at his moms’ wedding. The book does a fantastic job at showing that children in same-sex families are just like children in any family. This day is a big day for Donovan. But before he hands them the rings and kisses the brides, he has a bunch of other things to do. I adore the illustrations by Mike Dutton and how he brings this little boy to life. Like so many of these books, this book is not about politics, it’s about a family celebrating a special day.
Heather Has Two Mommies by Lesléa Newman was widely banned when it was first released and is still challenged today, along with other books on this list. It is probably the best-known picture book about a family with same-sex parents. When you read it, the first thing you will probably think is that it doesn’t live up to the banning. I always imagine banned books being horribly offensive or graphic, and this book is about a family with a doctor, a carpenter, and their daughter. Heather is starting a new school, and she is nervous and exploring all the possibilities of what a family looks like, just as her classmates are. She recognizes that her family is different but not less than. The new edition has wonderfully colorful illustrations as is a major improvement on the black and white ones from the previous editions.
Mommy, Mama, and Me by Lesléa Newman is a book about the everyday life of a family with two moms. What I love about this book is that it showcases parts of the day that young toddlers through preschoolers can relate to easily. They have bath time; go to the park; they cook dinner. In other words, they are a family like any with a small child. My son loved this book and related easily to the baby in the book and to the experiences that they share. The book makes no political statement, no explanation of two mommies and it shouldn’t. It’s a book targeted to toddlers about one loving family and nothing more. There is also a version with two dads called Daddy, Papa, and Me.
A Tale of Two Daddies by Vanita Oelschlager is a book about a little girl with two daddies. She is playing with a friend who is asking her how it works to have two daddies. He asks her the type of questions any young child might, and she answers them as they play together. I like this book because it addresses the sorts of questions young kids have about same-sex families. And most of all, it explains how similar all families are, no matter who is a part of it. I love that the illustrations are done from the perspective of the young children, only showing the adults from about knee level and down. Cute, bright book and my daughter loves it.
A Tale of Two Mommies by Vanita Oelschlager got my kids out of their seats at the table and glued next to me because they wanted to be that close to the illustrations by Mike Blanc. They were so vibrant, and the perspective was so great that both my kids (6 and 3) were immediately smitten. The story is great too; it’s really a collection of questions from two friends asking a third about how his family with two mommies work. Sometimes adults go straight for the big deep issues. But kids just want to know which mom is the one to coach little league and which one bakes cakes. The overall feeling readers are left with is that this little boy’s life isn’t all that different at all.
The Family Book by Todd Parr is a book that doesn’t give readers a narrow definition of family. It doesn’t say that your family has to look a certain way or be the same as your neighbors. As a teacher, I really appreciated the matter of fact way it embraced diversity. It makes mention of some families having two moms or two dads in the same vein as all the other similarities and differences. Kids see that families are not all like theirs. And it’s important to validate the truth while recognizing that families may not all look alike but that all families are made with love. Great book, cute illustrations, and children love it. I used this book in every preschool class I have ever taught from ages 2-5, and all kids loved it.
This Day in June by Gayle E. Pitman is the first picture book I have ever read that is all about an LGBTQ Pride parade. I loved the book, and both my children loved the illustrations. If you have never been to a pride parade, read this book to see what you are missing. I took my son to the pride parade in San Francisco when we lived there in 2007, and it was amazing. Children can learn a lot from experiencing the joy and community of a pride parade. Learning that just marching in a parade like this was once impossible. There are families and children at the parade. That gives parents an opportunity to teach their own children who might be unfamiliar with pride why they are there.
In Our Mothers’ House by Patricia Polacco is a lovely story of a family of two moms, three kids, and a big house in Berkley California that was witness to their years and years of love. Like many families that don’t fit the “normal” stereotype, these two moms and their kids faced opposition. The illustrations in this book show so well the emotions any parent would experience when an angry adult was threatening their family with children present. This book is about love. It is a window into a family that might be similar to yours or very different. But one thing this family has in common with every family is the love that holds it together.
And Tango Makes Three by Justin Richardson is a much-debated book. It’s the true story of two male penguins in Central Park Zoo who didn’t have any interest in the girl penguins but definitely liked each other. When the zookeepers noticed that they were in every way a matched pair, they also noticed that they prepared for a baby just like the other penguins. Time after time they were sad until they were given an egg to care for. Just like all families, love and care is what matters when creating a family and baby Tango and his two daddies have thrived.
My son loved this book and asked me to please go and see the penguins when I was in NYC. I didn’t have time to but I wish I had. Their story simplifies a very debated topic. I think it’s a great book not only to explain how all families are different, but also how love and care are really what makes a family, even for penguins.
Two Dads by Carolyn Robertson is a simple rhyming book about life with two dads. A little boy takes readers through a little snapshot of his life with two dads, which is unsurprisingly just like other two parent families for the most part. I love that this book not only has two dads but also includes adoption and an interracial family. There are so many different kinds of families out there and the more we can include on our bookshelves the better.
Stella Brings The Family by Miriam B. Schiffer is a really sweet book that my daughter immediately wanted to read again, once we were done. In the book, we meet Stella who has two dads and no mom to bring to the Mother’s Day party at her school. She frets about it and then decides to bring all the people who fill that role in her life. What I love about this book is that it doesn’t ignore that there are always bumps along the way for families that don’t fit the rigid norms that we so often uphold. This book does a great job at talking about it, recognizing Stella’s feelings, and finding a solution.
Zak’s Safari by Christy Tyner is a book about how Zak’s family became a family with the help of donor sperm. The book talks about how babies are made in a very age-appropriate way, saying daddies have sperm and mamas have eggs and they come together to make babies. There is no discussion about sexual acts, just that. I think this book does a great job with this subject which some parents feel very bashful about discussing. One of the things I adore about this book is how there are illustrations of the two moms snuggling and being affectionate. Often books about same-sex parents don’t show that, and I was happy to see that wall broken with this book. My daughter loved this book, and we used it to talk more about same-sex families and how children come about. She had assumed that all babies in same-sex families were adopted, so I was excited to share this with her.
Introducing Teddy by Jessica Walton is a FANTASTIC book. What makes this book, about a teddy bear who is transgender, so amazing is that it really reflects most young children’s view and acceptance of someone who is transgender. When a member of our church came out as transgender, my then 4-year-old was like “Cool can I have some cookies.” and my 7-year-old said ” So I shouldn’t say she anymore? OK.” and that was IT. I had already explained what transgender meant, and that was all they needed to accept someone. That is exactly what this book is like; Teddy is all sad and worried that her friends won’t accept that inside, she is a girl teddy even though outside she looks like a boy. She spills the beans, and everyone accepts her and her new name Tilly. I love how frank and simple this book is, and its focus on friendship is lovely. It’s perfect for any preschool and early elementary aged kiddos.
Daddy’s Roommate by Micheal Willhoite is a little different from the other books in this list in that the child in the book has a mommy, a daddy, and daddy also has a roommate. The book was written in 1990 and even though we don’t often hear “roommate” as a euphemism for partner or boyfriend anymore, but in 1990 it was probably more common. That aside, the book does a good job of explaining what this little boys life is like. Bug catching, reading, scary dreams… it’s pretty average stuff, but he has three adults to care for him.
I also like that the boy’s parents are divorced, which will be something many readers will connect with. The book’s explanation of what gay means is really simple and perfect for the book’s audience. I do think that the pictures are dated, but I don’t think kids will pick up on that as much as adults will.
Home At Last by Vera B. Williams and Chris Raschka is a story about a little boy Lester, who after being in foster care, is adopted by two dads. He knows he should be happy with all these wonderful new things, but at night he is still scared. This is a great look at what anxiety looks like and how loving parents respond. Eventually, the dog becomes his security buddy, and he can sleep at night and fully enjoy his new life and new family.
I am a pretty tolerant person and I do teach my children that every person is deserving of love and respect, but I would be livid if I found out a teacher read these books to my kids without informing me of it ahead of time. This is a topic that I want to be in charge of discussing with my kids, since there are aspects of it that are against our religious beliefs. I do not feel this would be appropriate to discuss with children without the permission of parents. Religion and sex are among topics that the parents need to handle, especially if the children are in preschool or elementary school. I do think it is possible to teach the kids that they should show love and respect and compassion to people, even if they may not agree with the lifestyle or opinions of those people.
Allison McDonald says
There is no discussion about religion or sex in these books, except for Purim SuperHero which does talk about Judaism and Zak’s Safari which speaks of conception, the other 30 books talk about families.
Allison McDonald says
And as far as it being against your beliefs, then you discuss why what the teacher read is something your family thinks is wrong. Same-sex marriage is legal, transgender kids are real – not talking about them is not ok. It’s up to parents to then explain why they may be against it, the only time religion comes into this equation is when yours is against this.
In total agreement with the first comment! ‘Right is right, even if everyone is against it, and wrong is wrong, even if everyone is for it.’ (William Penn) Child marriage is LEGAL in a few countries, cannabis will be sooner LEGAL in Canada, transgender kids are REAL… LEGAL and REAL are not always equal with RIGHT. The biblical marriage between a man and a women is the only marriage covenant that our Creator will bless (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6). Parents as first educators, should be the vision of each public education system…
This comment is frightening. Your kids probably badly need to hear these books read aloud even more than most.
Why do you expect that every school in existence should follow the same religious teachings and/or moral values as you yourself do?
What is so bad about the kids hearing a range of different ideas, then talking with your kids about how those ideas fit/don’t fit with your own beliefs?
Families of minority religions and cultural backgrounds do this all the time.
Let’s pretend that these books don’t have a clear ideological agenda i.e. “progressive” left. It has nothing to do with “informing” the children and everything to do with aggressive “progressive” values disguised as “children” books. Just be honest to yourself.
Ilana Leeds says
So have you petitioned for your school to remove all mentions of Christmas and Valentine’s Day yet?
Thank you for this list.
My family is not diverse (unintentionally as we seriously have no prejudices you love who you love goes in both directions) both my husband and I grew up in diverse more urban communities where we had LBTQIA friends and colleagues but now live a long way away in the countryside where people seem less open about differences unfortunately.
I don’t use gender bias with my girls they wear what they want, we shop in both aisles for both clothes and toys, if Barbie wants to marry Cinderella she can and does but I don’t want my two girls to think there is only one way to be simply because they have no ‘obvious’ experience with anything else I would’ve failed as a mum if I let them think that especially if they grew up to be LBTQIA or any person dear to them is. books are so powerful, thank you for giving me ideas.
Allison McDonald says
You are very welcome I too live in a less than diverse area and know the struggle, which is why these books have a special place in our family.
Any recommendations about single dad’s families?
My best friend had twins with a surrogate mother and I thought of finding a tale that can explain to the kids their origin.
Allison McDonald says
I believe there is a book being published right now _ I had a publisher email me about it. I will see if I can get more info!
Do you know of any books about 2 mothers divorcing suitable for a 3yr old? Many thanks.
For those who are uncomfortable with these books, it is important to think about the families you have or someday may have in your classroom. My take away is you don’t have to read these books at circle time if you do not want to, but they would be good to have in your library. The books could be used in so many ways . . . Lessons on family and acceptance, but also can be used as a tool for children who come from a diverse family and maybe need a little reassuring. These books would be great in a school psychologists office as well . . . Great list. Thank you for sharing!
colette palin says
5 years ago I would have been cross had these concepts been introduced to my children, I was of the opinion that we as a society were co ercing a generation of children to believe that anything goes and that this would be encouraging LGBT “behaviours” to their detriment.
Now as a mum of a 21 year old gay son and a 19 year old trans daughter transitioning to male I feel very very differently. These are not “choices” this is who they are and they are wonderful people born to 2 very stereotypical male/ female parents and they have suffered greatly owing to our ignorance and fear, and that of society. We have been so worried about societys perceptions and our 2 younger children being bullied as a result that we could not support our children with this incredibly painful and frightening reality. I wholeheartedly embrace these books and any steps towards societal understanding and acceptance.
I’m pinning this list. Thanks for all your work to put together book reviews on related topics. They’re always helpful when I need books for my grandkids. Teaching tolerance and kindness begins with recognizing and respecting our differences. I’ve been using many of your books from the list of “Books about the USA” and “Books about Anxiety and Worrying.”
Allison McDonald says
It’s my pleasure, I am so glad that my book lists help you, it’s why I do this work 🙂
Unfortunately your comment “The thing is a lot of topics that parents arenâ€™t sure how to handle, or they are against like gay marriage is not best left to them…..” usurps your boundaries as a childhood educator. As a Mom, foster Mom and school teacher frankly I am outraged. You are deciding on moral issues and the age at which these issues are discussed regardless of parental rights. This is a dangerous precedent to set. Regardless of what I think or you think about “the world around us” the rights of parents to raise their children as they see fit is a right and privilege that needs to be respected.
Allison McDonald says
I know that is a strong statement and I am not suggesting parents not teach it but I am suggesting that schools have a role. That if left just to the parents many children will never be taught that same sex families are loving and kind and that transgender children exist and should be included. If we had left school integration up to the parents how long would it have taken? These families exist, are real, are legally allowed to marry and yet we don’t include them? As an educator, you should know how important it is to build an inclusive and empathetic classroom. I am not usurping a parents right to raise their child to be against other human’s rights to marry or to live as the gender they see fit, parents are free to discuss and talk about the books in their child’s school but I am saying schools and educators must take a stand and include these books if we want to progress.
Danna Lockerby says
That’s my issue as well. It is NOT the responsibility of teachers or schools to raise children. It is the responsibility of parents. Teachers should not simply override parents because the teacher disagrees with or deems the parents “not fit” to raise their own children. This is wholly and wildly inappropriate.
Allison McDonald says
No one is overriding the parents, parents are free to tell the children that they disagree with same sex marriage or don’t “believe” in it. Teachers aren’t making judgements, I would never tell a child ” Your parents are wrong.” I would provide the tools and facts with no judgements.
Ilana Leeds says
Yes. The boundaries have been stepped over and in a most unhealthy and unhelpful Manner.
You will have kids convincing themselves they are gay or transgender because the odd drivel presented to them.
Allison McDonald says
KIds don’t convince themselves they are gay or transgender, that’s not how it works.
georgine BOSAK says
Thank you so much for putting this list together as well as all the other book suggestions you have made in the past. I am all for making all types of families and people commonplace. We need to show our kids that all people are different and that is OK. Don’t we want to see an end to prejudice and violence? By showing acceptance, our children can grow to be better citizens and the world can become peaceful.
I shared your list with our school’s director and asked her to pick some titles I could donate to the school. She picked quite a few!
Allison McDonald says
That absolutely thrills me to hear!
Jenna Z says
A Peacock Among Pigeons is by Tyler Curry, not Tim Curry
Allison McDonald says
OH my god – thank you! That was totally my brain filling it in.
Irina Gallagher says
Thank you for this list. My children and I have read a few of the titles and I just made a list of many available at our library for us to check out. It’s so important to show our children the various types of family structures and that no one structure is better than another.
Amanda S. says
This is a wonderful list, and I’m happy to see several titles that my children enjoyed when they were younger — including the delightful 10,000 Dresses by Marcus Ewert. Just a small correction: the book’s protagonist, Bailey, is, in fact, a girl who knows and tells others that she is a girl, but whose family insists that she is a boy. While some may be concerned that this message is too complex for young children, Ewert is so clear and gentle with his language that my kids grasped it easily!
I wrote a book called “Mama’s New Friend”, so I could explain the changes in our family. It is published by AuthorHouse. 🙂
Awesome list, and great to hear your thoughts on the books and their importance in educational institutions. A heartfelt thankyou for your work!
I am curious though, there aren’t any books on girls who don’t fit their ‘girl’ label. Have you ever seen any?
Allison McDonald says
Meet Polkadot is about a child who’s gender is not revealed, but I don’t know of one off hand that I have read and can review first hand. It’s on my must find list
I’m so glad I homeschool!! The gall of the author of this article to say she and “public education” knows what’s best for my children more than me as the parent is appalling. I teach my children that these “lifestyle choices” are sinful because that’s the truth. I’m so thankful to live in a country that allows me to teach and believe what I choose. I teach my children that all people in sin need Jesus. They need to repent and live according to the word of God. That is true love. I want every soul to get to heaven. But living in sin will not get you to heaven.
I will pray for every little child that could possibly be subjected to this atrocity. And for every parent that will have to fight to keep their rights to educate as they see fit, not how the government sees fit!
Allison McDonald says
We have very different definitions of truth. My truth is that calling people sinful ad that they will go to hell because they are different from you is hateful. Teaching your children to do the same is, unfortunately, your right.
Sadly, your idea of truth will lead people to an eternity separated from God, Allison.
Allison McDonald says
That is your belief, a belief many people who love God disagree with.
Rebecca Camacho-Sobczak says
The reality is this the truth many families live with. While itâ€™s an atrocity for you, it cannot be ignored. I respect your beliefs ( and I had them myself), and I will not dismiss them. But remember, this is true and we canâ€™t dismiss this either.
Thank you so much for sharing this list. I am sharing it with all my colleagues that work with children. I am a Psychologist and work with a number of gender fluid children and children of same sex couples. Having books like these to read with them, as well as with their peers, helps them to see they are not alone and that we are all really more similar than we are different. I have come across a great book called ‘Big Bob, Little Bob’ by James Howe that challenges gender stereotypes within the context of friendship between two boys with very different interests. Thanks again. 🙂
Allison McDonald says
I love getting new titles to check out – thank you!
Thank you so much for this list. I have gay dads and it’s very hard to find representation of our families. I’m happy to see the amount of books that have been published over the years. It’s sad to see of the comments on this post but that type of discrimination is still very real, even for young kids. That’s why the work you’re doing (and hopefully many other educators) is so important. Our families exist and are only going to grow in numbers in the future. It’s important that children and teachers learn how to accept that. It’s the only way the younger generation will feel more welcomed and accepted in this world.
Two women can be good mothers, but no women can be a great loving father like a man can. Two men can be great fathers, but no man can be a great loving mother than a woman can. If two women or two men are willing to deliberately and intentionally deny any child the chance at being raised by a loving father or a loving mother, one could easily and rightfully argue that, even with good intentions, they are not so great and not so loving as parents after all.
You don’t see a problem with two male same sex couples using a woman’s womb and DNA to have a baby or two women using a man for his sperm and DNA to have a baby. As long as the child is loved by the same sex couple right? Love is love? Same sex couples can be excellent parents, right?
Ok then… well seeing as biology is insignificant, and maternal love is replaceable and paternal love is replaceable, which of YOUR parents don’t YOU need? Shall we deliberately and intentionally remove your mother or father from YOUR life? WHICH ONE? You must choose. And it shouldn’t matter given you’re endorsing fatherless and motherless parenting arrangements for other people. Which of your parents shall we snuff out? Your mother or your father? Go on. Which one?
And if you say that your father was a jerk, so you’d snuff him out, well you’re proving the point. And if you say you’d snuff your mother out, because she was awful or abandoned you, you’re proving the point. You missed that maternal and paternal love that is inbuilt in us as human beings. It is natural. It is essential. If you hate your parents for hurting you and you’d choose for one or both to not exist, it’s because you’re hurting. You KNOW that a mother is a nurturer and you know that a father is a protector. The pain is from rejection. So why are you supporting something that deliberately deprives other kids of something so essential and so precious to the human experience?
Here are the most common objections from same sex “marriage” advocates and homosexual activists whenever you make a case for family structure equality which is inherent in one man-one woman marriage. They are variations of the same argument…
“My dad abused or neglected me, so children don’t need a mother or a father.”
“My mom abused or neglected me, so children don’t need a mother or a father.”
“My husband abused or neglected our children, so children don’t need a mother or a father.”
“My wife abused or neglected our children, so children don’t need a mother or a father.”
(These arguments usually include name-calling and ad hominem attacks directed toward natural marriage proponents)
So they are comparing (and trying to justify) same sex parenting to losses and shortcomings that happen (and often don’t happen intentionally) within the natural nuclear family.
Their argument is essentially this: “My father or mother abused or neglected me (or my husband or wife abused or neglected my children) therefore I think it is okay that other children be deliberately and intentionally denied any chance at the experiencing of being raised by both a loving mother and a loving father.”
They seem to have a difficult time understanding the difference between situations that are ACCIDENTAL and situations that are INTENTIONAL/DELIBERATE, which shows lack of common sense and complete ignorance. Or, they do not want to acknowledge the difference, which shows them to be disingenuous and full of malice toward other children for the hurt and loss they themselves experienced. In other words, they suffered as children or have seen children suffer these accidental losses (e.g. single parents, foster homes, adoption via death or divorce or abandonment), so it doesn’t really matter if we promote family structure inequalities where other children by design (e.g. same sex parenting, sperm donorship and commercial surrogacy, abortion) suffer the same kind of losses.
Also consider the following…
(1.) The biological definition of marriage treats everybody equally. Every adult already has the opportunity and the chance to marry another adult of the opposite sex whether they choose to or want to or not for whatever reason.
(2.) There has never been a law that prevented two adult people of the same sex to have a commitment ceremony and reception. (There has always been plenty of heretical/apostate churches and ministers, pastors, deacons, priests, etc to chose from).
(3.) There has never been a law preventing two adults of the same sex to draw up and agree to a legal contract sharing wills, estates, hospital visitation, retirement pensions, etc.
(How many attorneys in the country are there?).
(4.) The federal government does not and has never issued marriage licenses to anybody.
Equality of people within the institution of marriage would always include both sexes (male and female), not all kinds of (sexual and romantic) behaviors.
Same sex relationships and so-called same sex â€œmarriageâ€ excludes one sex or the other. That is not equality. There is absolutely nothing equal about that. As a matter of fact, itâ€™s actually promoting a form of segregation. Same sex â€œmarriageâ€ is actually comparable to the promotion of a form of marriage that excludes one race with another (interracial marriage ban that is advocated by racists).
Promoting the exclusion of one race or one biological sex are both promoting segregation, regardless of whether or not men and women can still marry each other. It is not a good thing to have a law that promotes segregation as just as good or the same as inclusion of both sexes. Just like the ban of interracial marriages that promoted segregation by race within the institution of marriage as a positive good, same sex â€œmarriageâ€ promotes segregation of the sexes within the institution of marriage as a positive good.
Same sex “marriage” really means, â€œgender-neutral marriage,â€ and gender neutral “marriage” means that we must erase the concept of biological connections within the legal code. This was actually the same way they treated black slaves within the legal code during the time of slavery. Same sex partner custody disputes are handled the same way they treated family members and children of slaves; (1.) The government can give a child to somebody who is not related to the child by blood or adoption, (2.) the natural parent did not consent to an adoption (adoption requires consent or being found unfit), (3.) the natural parent was never found unfit or even accused of being a bad parentâ€“ the natural parent wanted the child. We donâ€™t see all of these features in custody disputes involving only a father and a mother. Why are same sex partner custody disputes as a result of the legalization of same sex “marriage” triggering an experience that resembles slavery?
Whether they know it or not, advocates of same sex â€œmarriage,â€ at least in their reasoning, have more in common with racists who were/are against interracial marriages.ï»¿
Donald S Mikitta says
I object to the LGBT- Letting Go of Biological Truth sexualization and confusion-based mind raping of children
Thanks for the list. Iâ€™ll be getting some of these from the library for my kids. Do you happen to know of any books on grief/loss in LGBT families? A hospice colleague was searching for a book to share with a patientâ€™s family with young kids and has struck out so far finding anything specific. Thanks!
Allison McDonald says
I don’t off the top of my head – there is such a gulf of need for diverse family books that aren’t about having two moms or being in an inter-racial family but that address these issues with various family structures.
You probably no longer have the need but losing Uncle Tim and tiger flowers both deal with the loss of a gay relative. However their deaths are due to AIDS so they may not work for a general situation. I have not read either book and they are older.
Great list, thanks. We are always looking for books to give as gifts.
Have you read Uncle Whatz-it’s Coming to Visit? It is about a boy’s uncle that likes to dress “flamboyantly”. I read it several years ago. Also, where is the best place to find these titles?
Loved all of these books! Have to get “A Peacock among pigeons” for my preschool! 🙂
Keep on doing what you do, Allison!
After reading the comments, I am struck wondering if when our grandchildren read some of the more vitriolic comments posted here if they will respond with the same shock, outrage and shame that most adults feel today when we read statements from “fine upstanding” white people in the 50s about African Americans and interracial marriages.
Thank you for your list. I buy books for a library system in the south. I intend to check our holdings and purchase copies of any we don’t have. I recognized many so I know we have quite a few of the titles.
Allison McDonald says
I often make that comparison too. I will have a much longer list posted next month with some great brand new books, I hope you’ll pop back to see!
very good article. thx
Thank you so much for this list. I was able to find a few of these books in French on Amazon (I am a French Kindergarten teacher). Merci!